A 23-year-old Brooklyn photographer has come forward with sexual assault allegations against actor/comedian Aziz Ansari.
The woman, who is referred to only as “Grace” for the sake of anonymity, shared her story with online publication Babe, detailing the alleged assault that took place nearly four months ago in New York City. Grace explains she met Ansari at an afterparty for the 2017 Emmy Awards. She said the two spoke about cameras, “flirted a little,” and took a few photos together before Ansari asked for her number. Grace obliged.
After a week of “flirtatious” text exchanges, Grace agreed to go on a date with the actor on Sept. 25. Though she admits she was initially “excited” for the date, the night ended with her crying in an Uber as she made her way home.
The day after their date, Ansari reached out to Grace via text, writing: “It was fun meeting you last night.” Grace replied: “I just want to take this moment to make you aware of [your] behavior and how uneasy it made me.” Ansari apologized, insisting he “misread things.”
Babe viewed the text exchange, and confirmed the number Grace was texting matched Ansari's details on a public register. You can read the conversation below.
Grace said their dinner date was short, as Ansari was eager to leave. The two then walked to Ansari’s apartment. Once inside, Ansari began making sexual advances.
When they walked back in, she complimented his marble countertops. According to Grace, Ansari turned the compliment into an invitation.
“He said something along the lines of, ‘How about you hop up and take a seat?’” Within moments, he was kissing her. “In a second, his hand was on my breast.” Then he was undressing her, then he undressed himself. She remembers feeling uncomfortable at how quickly things escalated. When Ansari told her he was going to grab a condom within minutes of their first kiss, Grace voiced her hesitation explicitly. “I said something like, ‘Whoa, let’s relax for a sec, let’s chill.’” She said he then resumed kissing her, briefly performed oral sex on her, and asked her to do the same thing to him. She did, but not for long. “It was really quick. Everything was pretty much touched and done within ten minutes of hooking up, except for actual sex.”
She went on to describe how Ansari continued to put his fingers in a V-shape down her throat and then would insert them into her vagina. Grace also said he repeatedly forced her hand onto his penis and suggested the two have sex, despite the fact that she had expressed her discomfort in verbal and non-verbal ways.
“I know I was physically giving off cues that I wasn’t interested. I don’t think that was noticed at all, or if it was, it was ignored.” Ansari wanted to have sex. She said she remembers him asking again and again, “Where do you want me to fuck you?” while she was still seated on the countertop. She says she found the question tough to answer because she says she didn’t want to fuck him at all. “I wasn’t really even thinking of that, I didn’t want to be engaged in that with him. But he kept asking, so I said, ‘Next time.’ And he goes, ‘Oh, you mean second date?’ and I go, ‘Oh, yeah, sure,’ and he goes, ‘Well, if I poured you another glass of wine now, would it count as our second date?’” He then poured her a glass and handed it to her.
Grace then went to the bathroom and attempted to collect herself. When she returned, Ansari asked if everything was OK. Grace told him, “I don’t want to feel forced because then I’ll hate you, and I’d rather not hate you.”
She claimed Ansari then apologized and said, “it’s only fun if we’re both having fun.” Grace assumed that was the end of it and agreed to “chill” with him on the couch; however, immediately after she joined him, Ansari sat back and motioned for her to give him oral sex.
“And I did. I think I just felt really pressured,” she says. “It was literally the most unexpected thing I thought would happen at that moment because I told him I was uncomfortable.”
Halfway into the encounter, he led her from the couch to a different part of his apartment. He said he had to show her something. Then he brought her to a large mirror, bent her over and asked her again, “Where do you want me to fuck you? Do you want me to fuck you right here?” He rammed his penis against her ass while he said it, pantomiming intercourse. “I just remember looking in the mirror and seeing him behind me. He was very much caught up in the moment and I obviously very much wasn’t,” Grace said. “After he bent me over is when I stood up and said no, I don’t think I’m ready to do this, I really don’t think I’m going to do this.
Grace said Ansari backed off, and suggested they “chill” again, “but this time with our clothes on?”
But he didn’t stop. Grace said he continued to kiss her, force his fingers down her throat again, and attempted to underdo her pants. She eventually had enough and decided to get up from the couch and told Ansari she was going to call for a car. The actor arranged for an Uber to pick her up. She then left his apartment, but not before he gave her one last “aggressive kiss.”
“I cried the whole ride home. At that point I felt violated. That last hour was so out of my hand.”
She said she was shocked by Ansari’s behavior, as he has had a reputation for being a “woke” guy who respects women. Ansari was one of the many men who has voiced their support of the #TimesUp movement, which aims to eliminate sexual misconduct.
Grace said she never saw Ansari again, that is until she saw him win a Best Actor award at the 2018 Golden Globes. It was at that time that all of her painful memories flooded back.
“It was actually painful to watch him win and accept an award,” she explained. “And absolutely cringeworthy that he was wearing the Time’s Up pin. I think that started a new fire, and it kind of made it more real [...] I believe that I was taken advantage of by Aziz. I was not listened to and ignored. It was by far the worst experience with a man I’ve ever had.”
Ansari’s team has not yet responded to the allegations. You can read Grace’s full account here.