Comedian Beth Stelling Posts on Instagram About Being Raped and Abused by Ex-Boyfriend

Comedian Beth Stelling reveals she was raped and abused in her former relationship on Instagram.

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Rape is most often done by someone the victim knows and trusts in about 80 percent of cases, making it all the more horrific. This year has been essential in supporting that idea with the rape and abuse allegations made against big-time names like porn performer James Deen and Bill Cosby. Dozens of women have come forward to tell their truths despite the terrible consequences and possible legal repercussions their speaking out may lead to. Here is another woman, comedian Beth Stelling, telling her story of an abusive relationship in which she was raped and physically abused, on her terms.

Stelling has had a banner year having released a Comedy Central special and stand-up album Simply the Beth, a year she called "amazing" within the same Instagram post where she revealed she had been abused by her ex-boyfriend, as Jezebel reports. Joined by unnerving photos of her legs and arm bruised all over Stelling wrote about the verbal and physical abuse she endured from her ex-boyfriend. She honestly admitted she continued to date her ex-boyfriend for two months after being abused and raped. But she added that her break up with him was messy saying she "relapsed" and that she didn't know how to handle it when people asked her why they broke up saying she felt "stupid" and "embarrassed."

Here's an excerpt from the post:

"It's not simple. After I broke up with him he said, 'You're very open and honest in your stand-up, and I just ask that you consider me when you talk about your ex because everyone knows who you're talking about.' And I abided. I wrote vague jokes because we both live in L.A. and I didn't want to hurt him, start a war, press charges, be interrogated or harassed by him or his friends and family. I wanted to move on and forget because I didn't understand. I don't want revenge or to hurt him now, but it's unhealthy to keep this inside because my stand-up is pulled directly from my life. It's how I make my living. My personal is my professional. That is how I've always been; I make dark, funny. So now I'm allowing this to be part of my story. It's not my only story, so please don't let it be.”

Stelling noted how fear and a million other things may stop many like her from coming forward, but with this Instagram post she's showing them they can do it too. In her case it helped others come forward saying they had also been abused by her attacker. 

Stelling concluded the post saying that she's already begun talking about this during her stand-up and that many have encouraged her to continue doing so.

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