Brooklyn Nine-Nine actor Terry Crews found a way to become more intimate with his wife and it didn’t involve sex. The Daily Mail reports that he and his wife Rebecca King-Crews abstained for 90 days and he says the experience made him “more in love” and “more turned on” than ever.

“I found that at the end of that 90 days, I knew who she was and it wasn't about ‘Let's go out because I know I'm gonna get some sex later,’” he told HuffPost Live. “It was like, ‘Let's go because I want to talk to you. I want to know you.’”

After three months of “no sex, all relationship, all talk, all cuddle,” Crews says that every man has a desire for intimacy. “You're not looking for porn. You're looking for someone to know you and love you at the same time,” he added. “That's all you wantevery man out there. But he's scared sometimes. That's why men put up big fronts."