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With plenty of songs built for intimate moments, Miguel’s been helping guys find their groove with women since he dropped his 2010 debut album All I Want is You. Though his forthcoming Kaleidoscope Dream album (out October 2) touches on a bit more than sex and relationships, know that it still has its fair share of cuts for horizontal grinding and winding. Just check out the effort’s lead single “Adorn” or the aggressive, but charmingly crass “Pussy is Mine.”
After an in-depth interview and previewing his album for Complex last week, Miguel took a little extra time to lay out, plain and simple, what he makes look so easy: getting girls. From the first meeting to closing time and getting her back to the crib, he’s teaching.
“If you’re telling the story the next day and you say that you sealed the deal,” Miguel says, “We know what that means. That means you put it down.” Continue for his five tips for the fellas. Maybe you’ll have a tale with a happy ending to tell your friends soon.
As told to Brad Wete (@BradWete)
Make Eye Contact
“I don’t think I have game. I don’t have a mouthpiece like that. If I like you and what I see, then I’m going to try to make eye contact with you. If you make eye contact with me and I feel that there’s a possibility—even sometimes if I don’t feel there’s a possibility—I’m probably just going to approach you and say hello. And really, it’s just, “Hello. How are you? What’s your name?” And then you just ride the wave from there. You have to learn how to surf. I can’t teach you how to do that. You’ve got to learn how to make the conversation work.”
Drink and Joke
“If you’re at a bar, have a drink if possible. I think keeping it light and joking works really well. If you can make a girl laugh three times within 30 minutes, it’s pretty much over. It’s already a wrap. If you can make her laugh, it’s like [she’s thinking], 'This is going to be a good time.' Now all you have to do is be cool."
Be Assertive, But Not Too Much
"You want to take the lead, but you don’t want to be overbearing or forceful. You don’t want to turn her off. Let her know what you want. Always be honest. You can be suggestive, but don’t be obnoxious. Then again, some girls need that."
Don't Ask, Tell
"When it's time to go back to your place, it’s never a question. Never ask the question. You just say, 'Let’s get out of here.' Don’t say, 'Do you want to…' It’s always, 'Let’s go.' No second-guessing. Don’t leave it to chance. Just show initiative."
Finish Strong
"Once she's back at my place, depending on the night, I might pour her up another drink at the house. Or I might run the shower, like, 'Let’s take a shower.' Or she might get go sit on the bed. And you already know what time it is. You guys can always play one of my songs. [Laughs.] It’ll make it a little easier."
