When you fall for someone, you choose to love who they are in that moment. You can hope that they'll grow into the person you want them to be, but you still have to love and appreciate who they are right this second, too. If you’re not into who they are now, you're either holding them to impossible standards, or you’re simply not into them.
Throw the crazy standards out. Love people as they are. Encourage their growth. Push them to see more of what’s possible.