In the latest episode of Red Table Talk, the 50-year-old host opened up about the “pitfall” she tries to avoid to ensure she and Will have a healthy sex life. Jada and her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Norris, spoke to guest Gwyneth Paltrow about the difficulties they’ve faced when it comes to physical intimacy, specifically the “uncomfortable” conversations surrounding fantasies.
“It’s hard,” Jada said at the 14:18 mark. “I mean, the thing Will and I talk about a lot is the journey. We started in this at a very young age, you know, 22 years old. That’s why the accountability part really hit for me, because I think you expect your partner to know [your needs], especially when it comes to sex. It’s like, ‘Well, if you love me, you should know. If you love me, you should read my mind.’ That’s a huge pitfall.”
Gwyneth, who appeared on the show to promote her Netflix series, Sex, Love & Goop, agreed.
“Isn’t it weird, though? It’s like someone doesn’t read your mind and we feel crushed,” the actress said. “Like, we feel so disappointed. Why do we—where do we get that from?”
Jada went on to emphasize the importance of honest communication, and how it needs to be a two-way street.
“You tell me what you need. Tell me what you want, and on top of it, I know that I have to be accountable to do the same. I really try. It’s uncomfortable, but it’s deeply healthy, and I think around sex, because it’s something that we don’t talk about and there’s so much fantasy around it.”
Elsewhere in the episode, the woman touched on intimate language styles, the lack of sex education they received from their parents, the negative impacts of pornography, and having the birds-and-the-bees talk with their children.
You can check out the full episode above.