It's easy to blame your partner for relationship dissatisfaction, but self-reflection is a useful tool to mitigate conflict. That said, even the most self-aware people can find themselves blaming their partner for problems in a relationship. But frequently, they're not the fault of only one person, so blaming is a useless tactic that will keep you mired in conflict.
Your relationship can only become a true partnership when both of you shoulder some responsibility, and reflect on how you may be contributing to any tension. Do the inner work necessary to be an understanding and compassionate partner.