How are you "friends" with some dude in Chicago that they've never met? And you live in New York? Your friends don't understand the way #menswear brings random dudes together to share a common bond in fancy clothes and this does not sit well. They want to know how you can consider someone a "friend" just because they liked and commented on one of your Instagram photos. That doesn't fit their definition of friendship and actually falls under their immature definition of "gay."
They don't understand how you have other stylish friends that they don't know