How are you "friends" with some dude in Chicago that they've never met? And you live in New York? Your friends don't understand the way #menswear brings random dudes together to share a common bond in fancy clothes and this does not sit well. They want to know how you can consider someone a "friend" just because they liked and commented on one of your Instagram photos. That doesn't fit their definition of friendship and actually falls under their immature definition of "gay."