We won't do it here, but if you'd like to read a full-throated defense of Sex and the City, we recommend Emily Nussbaum's wonderful "Difficult Women: How Sex and the City Lost Its Good Name" which ran last year in the New Yorker. What we will say is that Sex and the City remains the most progressive female-driven sitcom we've ever had, at least in the way the show portrays relationships. There isn't the traditional will-they-won't-they tension between Big and Carrie because in the first season they do —and then they break up. Once the show got that out of the way, it was free to explore a more realistic, less clean version of will-they-won't-they. Rather than holding our lovers apart, the show flings them together, apart, together, and apart again.
Anyone who has ever gotten back together with an ex or tried to work things out after a rough spot in a relationship can surely relate. Life in the real world isn't a straight line to your destiny of wedded bliss. People disappear from our lives for a season or two sometimes; sometimes we're with the person we've loved most in our lives one day, and the next day they're gone forever. Sure, New Girl and Girls are progressive in their own ways. But, it's a safe bet that we won't go entire seasons without seeing Nick or Adam any time soon.