There's a good chance that as a taken man, you've been presented with the following situation at least once: wifey is moody, you ask her what's up, and she responds with a curt "nothing." This situation is common to both genders: sometimes, people are neither clear nor vocal.

Your instinct may be to say, "Well I didn't know what you wanted. Am I supposed to read your mind?" Shut it down. You don't have to engage your ESP, but understand the hints. If she's not up for discussing it much, or isn't into picking your third compadre, or gets "sick" every time the plans are about to come together, something is up. Avoid a meltdown during showtime and ask her beforehandin a sincere, open wayif she's truly ready to share. Hear her concerns if she has any, and think of it less as a treat for just you, and more as a bonding experience for the two of you.