Having predictable, going-through-the-motions sex is almost as bad as not having any at all. Whether it’s your pal you poke, or your girlfriend of many years, she’s familiar with your moves, and—sorry to break it to you, buddy—she’s probably bored silly by most of them. Like watching your favorite movie for the 20th time, the pleasure is still present, but the excitement that comes from unknown twists and turns is long gone.

You may be an old dog, but you’re fully capable of learning new tricks. This year, break out of ruts and stop relying on what you already know works. Commit to finding new ways to reach the finish line. Surprise her, and yourself.