It's really sweet that guys in the club don't want to make us feel rejected. But "maybe later," "I'm waiting on a friend," "I'm married," or "I'm just here to have a drink" as a way of turning down offers of private dances or company aren't necessary. Think of us as waitresses-if you don't need anything, a "No, thanks" will suffice. Our feelings won't be hurt, and we won't come back to bother you later.