Whether you’re asking a girl out in a bar, on a dating app, or at the DMV, have fun with it. I can’t tell you how many guys with tons of potential have become totally lame after being insulting in a feeble attempt at comedy, or leaving me to carry an entire conversation with little more than a few ‘hahas’ on their end. Asking someone out is a teaser for what your date will be like, and dates are supposed to be fun! You might think you’re playing it cool, but it actually reads as douchey and insecuretwo qualities I can bet your crush isn’t looking for in her next beau. Instead of acting aloof, send her your favorite Vine or ask what she did that day before you pop the big date question. Most importantly, just be genuine. Girls are busy warding off creeps and trying to make up the extra 17% of income they lose as a result of the gender wage gap. Show them you’re worth making time for.