On identifying as bisexual: "I have dated and have had sex with men and women and have to say that the relationships I have had with certain women have been much more fulfilling, sexually and emotionally, than those with certain men. I connect with an aura, with energy. And if the person with whom I connect happens to be a female, that's just the way it is. That's what makes my wheels turn,” Loken told Curve in 2006.

Loken has always advocated queer visibility for equal rights. In her AfterEllen interview in 2009, the former The L Word actress admitted that she was with a woman before meeting her now ex-husband, actor Noah Danby, and got into another relationship with a woman after their divorce. However, since her older sister is a married lesbian, she confessed that she felt a pressure to have the “easy life,” a traditional heterosexual marriage with “the white picket fence," but she has since come to terms with her feelings.