5 Real-Life Internet Dating Fails You Can Learn From

Conquer by understanding why lesser men have failed.

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Don't confuse creativity with creepiness.

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Don't try to impress her with skills you don't have.

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Don't lie or exaggerate. Like, ever.

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Don't mask your fear of rejection as consideration for her time.

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Don't act so nonchalant

Back in the day, the old ignoring-her-to-get-her-attention-bit might've worked wonders, but now that eighth grade is over, being standoffish doesn't make her sweat the way it used to. Instead, your flippant attitude will come across as manipulative, a sign of your floundering self-esteem.

Joyce Y., 30, was thrown off when she received this passive-aggressive message in her inbox: "Hi, hopefully this message sees its way through all the garbage you get from schmucks on here. I could write a message gauging you on everything you wrote that I like and spend time thinking about the perfect message, but life's too short, and I like to get straight to the point. I really like your profile and I find you attractive. If you feel the same way, awesome. If not, well then hey, at least I didn't waste my time writing an in-depth lust letter to ya. Take a look at my profile and lemme know."

Joyce's take on this failed correspondence: "Don't mask your laziness/fear of rejection as consideration for my time."

Instead, try personalizing your message with something specific to her.

"My profile mentioned I liked trivia, so he challenged me with random trivia. I fell for it hook, line, and sinker. I replied—even though I typically wouldn't have messaged him back," said Kim B., 27.

Your chances are considerably better if you put a little effort in, we promise.

Don't dirty talk a girl you've never met.

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