Tabatha McGurr is a Brooklyn bred-writer currently residing in Bed-Stuy with her boo and dog Coco. She's been running to the Married To The Mob blog for the past six years. In her weekly column, she gives Complex readers insight into what today's young women really think about love, sex, and relationships.
THE BASICS
I have a perverted sense of humor, so I have no problem talking crassly with dudes on the phone, or in general. Still, there’s a huge difference between innocent dick and balls talk as a joke and guys who go hard with the sex talk all over your phone. These meaningless little conversations are meant to be sexy ice-breakers, not full-on To Catch A Predator chat rooms. Unless you’ve actually fucked the person you’re sexting, refrain from asking too many personal questions like, “Do you shave?” or “Do you like anal?” When guys talk like that, we can’t help but imagine that they’re furiously masturbating behind a dark computer screen all the time. Being subtle is the key with sexting. You’ve gotta take your time to come up with smooth responses, not just the first thought that pops into your deviant head the second she sends you a tit pic. Which brings me to my next and favorite subject...