We Spoke to the Woman Behind the Viral #SameBae Story About Exposing Her Cheating Lover

The woman behind the story spoke to Complex about her experience.

Ayana the Diva
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Ayana the Diva, #sambae.

Ayana the Diva

The captivating #samebae saga has taken over Twitter. And it’s indirectly schooling us on the art of being petty.

Over the weekend, Twitter user @AyanatheDiva began posting about the incident that ended her three-year relationship with her boyfriend. It all started earlier this week when the 26-year-old hairstylist and entrepreneur discovered she and a new co-worker had been seeing the same guy for about a year. Yes, a full year. But the insanity didn’t stop there. Rather than lose her cool and confront her man right away, Ayana the Diva came up with a plan to catch him completely off guard.

“Not the first time I've been cheated on. And I ALWAYS react first, and ask questions later. When you do that you usually don't get the answers you need,” Ayana told Complex. “I decided to just let her do all the talking. I wanted to get everything I needed then decide how I should proceed. This was honestly the best way for me. Sad I had to bring her in the middle of it though.”

Ayana told Complex she was never mad at the other woman, and did apologize after the story went viral.

“I was honestly just venting [on Twitter],” she said. “I have threads of different things all the time on Twitter but this one obviously was the most interesting lol.”

She continued: “I mean guys have cheated on me in the past. But I'm older now. I'm a college graduate and a business owner. I feel like I have grown up so much since my past relationships. I have learned so much about myself and my limits. I chose me this time.”

If you’ve yet to read the full #SameBae story, get some popcorn and check out Ayana’s story below. 

When a girl wants to show you a picture of her fine nigga in her phone and she starts pullin up YOUR mans IG page 🙃 pic.twitter.com/kR5HQz7AKi

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So I just started this new job like 2 weeks ago. All my coworkers been pretty cool. But it's this one girl who I literally just clicked with

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

We act alike, have the same taste in men. (I know this because when they come in the door we both be lookin at each other like) pic.twitter.com/RYNyWwzr9D

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So last week I had a guest who all my female coworkers (hell the men too) were going crazy over. I, didn't think he was all that ..

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

And neither did she. She was like "I know a nigga that looks way better than him." We we're on different sides of the restaurant ..

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

(We're servers by the way). So she was just showing everyone the pic of him and they was all like yeahhh he fine he do look good blah blah

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

Mind you this was LAST week. & we had got busy so I never got to see the picture. So tonight, a fine ass CHOCOLATE MAN with a BEARD walks in

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

We give each other the look again. Because we obviously both think he's cute. When he leaves she says "that man was so fine" I'm like yessss

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

She goes "I forgot to show you the boy I was talkin bout last week" so she pulls out her phone, opens the instagram app....

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

The FIRST name in her search bar was my boyfriend's Instagram page ... pic.twitter.com/o6NjO5pTrI

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

In my head im literally praying she doesn't click on his page ........

But she does pic.twitter.com/zgVM9MnxIE

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So I keep it cool and I'm like oh that's (his name) .... you know him???

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

I ain't saying his name on here cuz y'all be real quick 😂

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

Anyway she like "yeahhh I know him, how you know him?" I'm like no how YOU know him ???? (Laughing and being all fake smiling n shit) pic.twitter.com/WBSe0nfZHI

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

She goes "girl that is my booooo" I let her get it out cuz I wanted her to tell me as much stuff as she could before I made my announcement

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So she's like ain't he fine , ain't he fine. Omg how you know him. I just simply replied "we went to middle school and high school together"

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So I'm like " so that's just your boo or your boyfriend" I'm still smiling acting so interested pic.twitter.com/U3mz6bvKSr

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

She goes "girl that's just my boo but we talk everyday we might as well be together" pic.twitter.com/yANDaG3TzS

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So I'm still playing it cool like omgggg that's crazy this world is sooo small. Just as I was about to call an Uber . I just decided to ask

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

Her where she lives ... she was like I'm in Ellenwood .
I was like omg me too I'm off exit 5
She was like omg me too! pic.twitter.com/wGPfuvOfSd

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So I ask her what is she doing tonight ?
"She was like nothing"
I was like girl come to my house and have a drink !!
She was like okay cool

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

The gag is my boyfriend lives with me 🙃

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So we hop in the car & she telling me about him & all the good times they've been having for the past year (we been together for 3 btw)

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

My boyfriend works at night and gets off at like 1 am so my plan was to have him walk in and see us there. As we're pulling up to my complex

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

She goes "bitch omggg I live here"
Now I'm mad af but I'm keeping calm. It's just hard as hell now. But anyway I'm like "omg WHAT?!"

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

She's like "yessss girl this is my neighborhood omfg I'm about to be over your house everyday"
In my head I'm like pic.twitter.com/eJW2iw6Eo0

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

But this DOES answer the question if she's ever been to/in my house. Which she hasn't cuz I'm sure she woulda said something

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So I go "does your man live on this side too? I live with mine maybe we can double date" she's like no he lives an hour away I'm like 🙄 pic.twitter.com/3z0oIsT2Pk

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So girl we pull up at my house she's like this is crazy im only 6 houses down the street (let me find out this nigga be walking to her crib)

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

Anyway. We're getting out the car and I see the tv light through the front door. THIS NIGGA HOMEEE hmmm. So I decide to go in through

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

The garage to see if the car is in it and yep. So I'm low key hype. I'm like "oh girl I didn't know MY babe was home you can meet him"

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

I walk in fast af . pic.twitter.com/X1rxsAVayv

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

This nigga in the bathroom. 🤦🏽‍♀️. So I'm like cool. She sits down& I start pouring us glasses of wine. She's like "your house is so pretty"

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

I'm all smiling like thanks boo pic.twitter.com/UVRggyoUjf

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

I hear him yell from the bathroom like "bae that's you"
"I'm like yea my coworker here we're about to drink , come join us when you done"

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

This nigga comes out the bathroom and comes in the kitchen and sees her ... THEIR FUCKING FACES WERE PRICELESS DO YOU HEAR ME!!!

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

His dumb ass gone say "what's up how are you" ... she sick af in the face looking at him like pic.twitter.com/0FfwWteKRQ

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

She then looks at me and goes "Really Ayana? Why didn't you just tell me ?? This is embarrassing I wouldn't have done you like this"

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

I'm like "I WoULdNt HaVe dOnE yOu LyKdIs" pic.twitter.com/5wHybEKemq

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

I basically just say "thanks for the ride girl. No hard feelings , you can keep the glass" she really kept my shit and walked out 😂🤣🤣🤣

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

Now he lookin at me like pic.twitter.com/aCdSo4hFQM

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

I look at him and go "really nigga???? 6 fucking houses down??? Are you fucking stupid or something ????"

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

So to fill in the gaps in case you're confused. Me and the girl are BOTH new to the job so he didn't know she worked there yet.

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

In case you're wondering he has left the building. I'm currently taking a break from packing up his shit to tweet this story 🙂

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

And no im not concerned with him not having anywhere to go... she does only live 6 houses down. 🏠🏡🏠🏡🏠🏡🚶🏿.

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

😒😒😒😒😒 pic.twitter.com/Setf78FBj9

— The Original Diva. (@AyanaTheDIVA) September 10, 2017

 

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