4 things that make sex the best you've ever had

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For CurvyAnna, a vocal partner is the key to a satisfying sex life.

"I loved how vocal a certain ex was and how he sounded when he was really loving it," they wrote.

"Sometimes, I'll be someplace and the memory of his sound will pop in my head and make me instantly turned on."

Not everyone can have multiple orgasms, but it seems that the more you can give someone, the better.

"What makes it good? Orgasms. Orgasms galore," said MrsMxy. "I usually can't count how many I have during regular sex because they kind of run together and my brain goes a little fuzzy."

"That man can play me like a fiddle and has managed to get me off by playing only with my ears," they added. Again, this may not be an option for all of us, but do what you can. 

MrsMxy elaborated that their great sex life is not just about their husband's ability to give orgasms—it's about his desire to do so. 

"He's one of those magical guys who gets pleasure out of giving pleasure, so he loves getting me off," they said,  adding, "I'm happy to return the favor."

When asked what he does that works so well, they said, "Above all, I think the most important trait is that he truly loves giving pleasure as much as he loves receiving. He pays attention, watches, and listens to see what works, and then he simply does it."

BeckyDaTechie said they also owe the best sex of their life to "how intensely he was focused on figuring out what I'd enjoy."

Several Redditors brought up the importance of touch. 

"He didn't care if we f*cked at all; he was just stoked to finally be allowed to touch me. He must have spent an hour just going over every inch of me without even taking off any of our clothes," said BeckyDaTechie. 

"I miss the way he caressed me so gently, held me in his arms at night and from behind, and the way he held my hands," said lollicash. 

But that doesn't mean everything was gentle, they added. "I also miss his rougher side, when he would grab me, look into my eyes while doing it, pushing with such force and passion, and spank me while holding me closer to his big, muscular chest."

Ultimately, though, good sex won't rectify a bad relationship, CurvyAnna pointed out.

The guy who gave them the best sex of their life was still "a mean-spirited manchild," they said, "and thinking about HIM as a person makes my vagina dry as the Sahara."